The Boy Who Feels Too Much - Behind the Song
And they say you’re being too emotional. And they say that big boys never cry. But they don’t tell you the price you pay to live a life in this way.
I was a bit of a sensitive child; I often struggled to handle emotions that would suddenly erupt into feelings too big and overwhelming to contain. The people around me tended to treat it as a character flaw; something wrong with me that needed to be fixed. They took the approach that I needed to be toughened up. I still feel their disapproval and disdain. And, it may have been a sign of the times, but nobody seemed interested in actually helping me to harness or live with these emotions. So, instead, I learnt to suppress them. It was only in later life that I came to appreciate how harmful that was.
Lyrics
I can see you there, you’re in tears again
From the words they say and the teasing games
And you feel alone, and it doesn’t help
When you lose control, when you take their bait
Every time the feelings overwhelm you
Every time you’re lost within yourself
Every time the ones who could console you turn away
Don’t believe the things they say (the boy who feels too much)
It’s OK to feel this way
Don’t deny the cry within (the boy who feels too much)
Boys don’t grow by holding in
The boy who feels too much
I can see you there with the ones who shame
When they ought to care but they’re all the same
And they say you’re being too emotional
And they say that big boys never cry
But they don’t tell you the price you pay to live a life in this way
Don’t believe…
If I could be there I would hold you tight
Be the person that you needed
I would tell you it will be alright
Don’t believe…